I, like all humans, have many people and situations to grieve. In the past, I have tried to fight it, squish it, ignore it, abandon it, but I now understand that the grieving process will not be denied. The more I confront and accept pain and difficult situations, the smaller they get. Facing it makes it real, and the unknown has more power than the truth.
This same concept seems to be universal in my life. In solving family and business problems, the more I just walk through the steps, focused of on the current step without running ahead, the less stress I experience. It creates a peaceful process, and ultimately, I achieve a more desired result.
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ReplyDeleteI agree! One can never seem to hide from the grieving process--it will always end up knocking at your door. In my experience, if you try to hide out from it, it will end up hitting you full force (usually in a less than ideal place-like in the middle of a grocery store or while talking to a parent). I think you have it right: stay "focused on the the current step without running ahead." Ultimately, I feel that will keep most of us feeling much more positive and remaining sane! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
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Dani
Unfortunately know this all too intimately--for me it's about coming to terms with it--being painfully realistic about the "living" process and being so grateful for what I have----no one ever said this was going to be a skate in the park...most days I'm skating gleefully and on those few and far between days I feel the ice cracking--times like that I seek warmth!
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